The biggest struggle most people don’t even realize they have is being too focused on WHAT can make them happy, and not the fact that they already have it infront of them. They need to change their mindset. Is there one main way to achieve happiness? No, of course not. Everyone is different, and we all have our definitions of being happy. But, loving and accepting your own life can open that mindset of happiness. Looking at life in that “glass half full” kind-of-way will shape your mind to be more optimistic and accepting of unhappy situations. Whenever you encounter a situation that becomes stressful, breathe, and remember that there is a solution to almost every problem. There is always a bright side to every dark situation. Like yin and yang, like the sun shining on one side of the earth, while the other side experiences a dark, glooming moon.
Some small tips for beginning thinking positive:
- Identify the bad and good in your life. Knowing and being mindful of what’s both good and bad in your life makes it easier to love the good and make peace with the bad.
- Examine those bad experiences and emotions. How did you react during them? What were your first thoughts? It’s important to recall these experiences so that you can mature and advance your response for next time.
- Practice letting things go. Start with the small aggravating things that may fuel the fire throughout the day. If the coffee barista (*cough* starbucks employee *cough*) messes up your coffee tomorrow morning, be kind and forgiving while asking them to remake it, then let it go. If someone cuts you off in traffic, don’t honk your horn, don’t let it get the best of you. Maybe, they couldn’t see your car entirely, or they’re an elder and have trouble driving. Practicing being calm, and understanding will benefit how you react in bigger situations.
- Change some of your perspectives. It’s tough to look at things from a different perspective, but it’s important to remember that you do have the power to change yourself and your life. Find a few things in your life you’d like to adjust and work on improving them. One of the causes of being unhappy is feeling helpless or lack of control. Gain control of your life and have faith in your self!
Having a negative attitude can become a habit over time and hurt your self-esteem and ability to be positive. It’s important to avoid blaming yourself for issues that come up into your life. Blame is never helpful in any situation and causes you to look back to the past rather than grow and change for the future. Be mindful of those negative emotions and try reacting to them differently.
Now, thinking positive won’t necessarily make you happy, I am pushing the idea of thinking positive because it may not only benefit your mental health but also benefit and impact the lives of the others around you. Coming into contact with a positive person that handles a negative situation with a calm and sensible attitude can make your day better and be inspiring. Being a positive person is not a bad thing, and it will undoubtedly benefit your day to day life! It may not be the thing that fills the “void” in your life… but remember learning to love your own life may do it!
The worst is when we compare our lives and lifestyles with others. You shouldn’t let someone else’s lifestyle boost your confidence or bring you down. Letting go of those insecurities about your life will help you find joy rather than envy. It’s important to remember that we are all on the same journey; we all go through obstacles and challenges that can impact our lives tremendously. We can’t be sitting around focusing on what’s wrong with our lives, and we can’t be infatuating over other people’s lives. We need to learn love our own lives, or we are never going to be able to be happy and share our love with others.
Disclaimer: I am in no way a medical professional. Nothing said on this blog is meant to cure or diagnose anyone or anything. I just want others to know; they are not alone. I am only a 19-year-old girl who does make mistakes and may also get incorrect information. I try to interpret what I read/learn and relay it back in my own unique way. If anyone has an issue or correction to anything that is read on this site, feel free to contact me and let me know at “bemoreyouhealth@gmail.com” Thank you for reading and always share love and kindness.
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