Clear Your Mind of Jealousy and Judgment

“Be curious, not judgmental.” – Walt Whitman

This world is full of fast-paced competition. People are constantly comparing their “successes” and “failures” to those around them, always striving to either do better or boost their ego. It is human nature to be judgmental, but it’s a useless and hurtful trait we possess. It’s the leading cause of division between people and hurts our relationships. When thinking about it, it’s easier to judge someone rather than go out of your way to learn, adapt, and understand. But I think it’s genuinely worth it in the end. 

I think jealousy and judgment play hand-in-hand. One of the reasons you may judge someone else is because you are envious of who they are or what they are doing. Not always, but I think that is a big part of it. Remember that life isn’t a competition, it’s not a race to see who can be the most successful, the most joyful, nor the most fulfilled. Be conscientious about your own goals and dreams in life, but don’t base them off others.

So, how can we eliminate those feelings of jealousy? One way is to look for the alternative to it. But what’s the substitute of jealousy? Admiration! Admiring a person’s success or happiness will fulfill you rather than deplete you. Remind yourself to feel happy for others so that you can use your positive mindset and energy to motivate yourself. By practicing admiration and acceptance towards what others have, you give yourself the chance to believe you are worthy of those things as well, instead of feeling envious over it. 

When it comes to judgment, it’s also important to remember that you don’t know everything, and there’s always room to learn more. No one knows everything and the people that can accept that are the ones that will continue to adapt and have a more open-minded outlook on the world. Don’t be self-righteous, we all can teach others around us, whether it’s a ten year old or an eighty five year old, we all possess different knowledge. 

The best approach to eliminating judgmental thoughts from your mind is to try to change your thought process. 

1. Practice your first reaction to something new or weird, by being curious and asking questions, instead of automatically judging it because you don’t understand. Be positive and practice giving the benefit of the doubt. 
2. Remember, we all have our weird habits. You most likely do things that others may find very odd, but that doesn’t give them to right to judge you. See where I’m going with this? Consider your quirks before judging others on theirs.
3. If you said out loud, what you’re thinking about someone, how would it sound? If it’s a judgemental thought, it would probably be insulting. Target these thoughts so you can accept them.
4. Come to acceptance with the explanation that you may not agree with or the things you don’t understand. Remember that not everything in life is meant to be perfect and logical. The more you try to learn from life, the more it will teach you rather than confuse you. 
5. Be loving and positive. Being compassionate and understanding will eliminate that feeling of judgment and envy to open positive thinking and acceptance. When a negative thought does come into your mind, be able to recognize that it is only a thought, not a sign of right or wrong, nothing more than a thought. 

In the end, we all are working towards the same thing, to get through life happily. Basically, the three adjectives to remember from this post is understanding, curiosity, and admiration. Let’s strive to exclude judgment and jealousy from our everyday lives, and seek to spread positivity and acceptance towards others. Curiosity will set your judgments free and open your mind to new things you may have never known you’d LOVE! 

Disclaimer: I am in no way a medical professional. Nothing said on this blog is meant to cure or diagnose anyone or anything. I just want others to know; they are not alone. I am only a 19-year-old girl who does make mistakes and may also get incorrect information. I try to interpret what I read/learn and relay it back in my own unique way. If anyone has an issue or correction to anything that is read on this site, feel free to contact me and let me know at “bemoreyouhealth@gmail.com” Thank you for reading and always share love and kindness.